I am talking about a lady who is very close to me but some of her characteristics disturbs me a alot. She is always very contended speaking illness and all sorts of physical distortion.I am observing her for 5 long years and only conclude that all these are actually her mental problems. The sickness lies beneath her mind which she is too backdated to understand . She always speaks about one or the other problem, pains, etc. occuring in various parts of her body but when the part is examined by a doctor its found normal. She is very happy taking different types of medicines. I advised her to read various books , to watch television or atleast go for a brief stroll every evening but all in vain.
Day by day she is going deep down in darkness, a darkness from where no one can lift her , untill she desires to come out. And it is not possible for me to take her to any counsellor or such doctors as this action of mine will not be taken in a good manner by people who are near to her and unfortunately does not feel the need of a healthy mind just like a healthy body.
Moreover the lack of self realisation and self rejuvination do not allow her to take any new things , experience new moments in life. Neither she have any hobby nor self wllingness to lead a chearful life thus the four walls of her room and few faces has become her world.
How will she comeover the situation is beyooooond my thought.
What do we call this, Middle age crisis as she is 59-60 years old? Or mere frustration ? Depression? How can she come out of it and lead a healthy life like us?
If you all have any suggesstion come up ....
Dear Moumita,
ReplyDeleteLike u said these people DO NOT want to come out of their shell. They love attention and since they cannot find it in any other way , this guarantees the attention they crave. Don't loose heart. It's her life. If she rather lead it in misery , then that's her choice. You carry on with yours. Do not pay too much attention as this is exactly what she wants! Good Luck.
Hi Moumita,
ReplyDeleteI would rather say that this is a habit, maybe itis not intentional maybe it is, but as Rinku very rightly put this is plain attention crisis. Somewhere down the line I guess these people love the fact that someone is talking about her, putting in some more time & efforts doing the same!
I feel like small kids you can also try and ignore things and sometimes pay attention, if the person realizes that nothing special is happening then maybe these things will cool down a bit.
However, by now I am sure you found out your way to cope with this and maneuver things beautifully. Long way to go girl.....
Luv,
Anamika